Written By Nandini Nayar, Illustrated by Upamanyu Bhattacharyya
Right from the time of birth, the life of a child situates around two most important people – Mama and Papa. Sometimes, it is Mama who does things for the child and sometimes it is Papa who does everything possible under the sun to see the child smile. However, in Nandini Nayar’s Sometimes Mama, Sometimes Papa (Puffin, 2021), there is a small difference, which is that the parents do not live together anymore. The new picture book, with beautiful illustrations, shows the perspective of a child after her parents are separated. Now, the child has two homes, two schedules.
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About the Author
Living in Hyderabad, Nandini Nayar is known for her contribution to children’s literature. She has written about 300 short stories and 55 books for children, like The Diary of an Indian Schoolgirl series, The Curious Case of The Sweet and Spicy Sweet Shop and more. She has also contributed for the syllabus of English in schools and universities textbooks. She has been passionately writing since the past 21 years!
Divorce from a Child’s Perspective
Introducing the topic of divorce in a children’s book is a tough task. What is brilliant about the author, though, is the manner in which she has dealt with the topic. In the picture book, the reader doesn’t encounter even for once the dreaded word ‘divorce’. Hence, we know that Nandini Nayar has dealt with the separation very delicately.
An interesting aspect about the perspective of divorce is that the child, when stating that her parents aren’t together, doesn’t seem totally depressed by the fact. She has, in fact, adopted to her new dual lifestyles in a very good way. In doing so, Nandini Nayar has given an original take on the idea of divorce. It is not always necessary that the divorce has to be something traumatic for the child, and it’s a helpful reminder that children will internalize everything we teach them – it is often our own awkwardness that rubs off on them.
Keya talks optimistically of having two homes. She says that in every sphere of life, be it in reading stories, giving her lunch, going to her parent-teacher meetings, it is “sometimes mama, sometimes papa”. The parents show a degree of cordiality with each other when they meet at Keya’s annual function or when Keya is hurt in school. In spite of their separation, it is crucial to observe that the parents divide all tasks relating to their child equally amongst themselves. So, if “Mama drove them home”, “Papa held Keya on his lap”.
About the visuals of Sometimes Mama, Sometimes Papa
As a picture book, a big chunk of the story is made by its illustrations, which are pleasing, watercolour sketches that capture the mood deftly, without unnecessary embellishments and minimal background clutter. The colour scheme, a range of pastels, moves from cool, to hot, to warm. It establishes a unity, like the story, appearing as one even when representing twos.
“And Keya’s smile was big enough for both of them – her mama and her papa.”
Sometimes Mama, Sometimes Papa presents a beautiful and optimistic view of a separation. It shows how a divorce can be an affair without trauma or unhappiness, and comes as a breathe of fresh air in a culture that treats separation as a scandal and a tabboo. It does without ignoring the reality of the society we live in, and that is its winning moment. Nayar enters the mind of a child and beautifully captures her moments of doubt, confusion, and immense love for her parents.
Final Verdict: 4/5
Our Rating System
* – Don’t bother.
** – Borrow it if you must, use it as a travel companion.
***– Make a purchase. Maybe an online purchase, or a kindle purchase. But buy it, encourage it.
**** – Go to a bookstore and buy it. Pay those extra bucks.
*****–Buy a hardback and show it off in your bookshelf! And then wait for a signed anniversary edition and buy that too.